Sunday, October 20, 2013

New to Single-Motherhood...

So I'm new to this whole Blog concept, but I figure since I journal my thoughts as often as possible, why not share some of my nonsensical ramblings with the world? My recent head-first leap into the world of single-motherhood has given me even more reason to write my feelings down, since it's somewhat therapeudic and makes me feel a bit less like a lunatic! 

For several very good reasons that I won't go into detail about right now, I found it necessary in August to leave my husband of 2 years and take our 2 year old son with me. Suffice to say, it was a very unhealthy marriage that was not ideal for anyone in our little family. This includes my spouse, myself, and most importantly: our son. So we uprooted ourselves from our comfortable military housing in San Diego, and moved back in with my Mom 3 hours North. Leaving was the best decision I could have made, however, it has of course had its fair share of consequences. 

First of all, I haven't worked since my son was born 2 years ago. Second, my husband and I only ever had one vehicle, which he purchased it prior to our marriage. Translation: I didn't get to keep the car. Third, my mom owns a quaint little 3 bedroom, 2 bathroom home with all occupied rooms. I have 2 younger sisters (13 & 17) and my moving back in meant that one of these teenagers would be losing their privacy. It also meant that my son and I would have to fit an entire house-worth of things into one tiny 10 x 12 room! Needless to say, there have been and continue to be quite the number of adjustments made. 

Between the job hunt, car search without the funds to purchase one, inevitable daycare necessity, and home-life adjustments, life has thrown us all for a loop! I managed to land myself a part-time job in the meager month I've been there, (I start the beginning of November!) and now the vehicle hunt and daycare search are in full-swing. It is terrifying to be going back to work after 2 years, and the idea of being away from my little boy everyday is heartbreaking. 

There are so many emotions coursing through me all day, everyday, that it can get overwhelming. But at the end of the day, I know I can handle anything that comes my way. Why? Because I have to! I have a 2 year old little boy who is the most precious, important part of my life! Onward and upward I guess!

Any other women out there with similar situations or circumstances? Feel free to share any thoughts or advice! :) 

XoXo- Nikki